thejoanglebook:

pla-a-nt:

disasterbisexual:

if you’re ever scared you’re not a good person, remember that bad people don’t care about being better 

This is actually very important, so I’m gonna hit that reblog button again

I’m don’t want to rain on the parade, but I don’t think this is true at all. Someone can be bad for a period of time, recognize that they’ve made horrible choices, and change for the better. A lot of “bad people,” don’t even know that they’re doing anything wrong. I think this oversimplification puts you at risk of dehumanizing flawed people, or people who’ve made some mistakes because you perceive them as bad.

If you think you might be a bad person right now– that’s okay because everything is liquid. Your life is going to take on a completely different shape ten years from now– your life might even look completely different ten months from now. We should encourage people with the prospect of changing for the better– not the idea that bad people are inherently bad and they like being that way. I don’t think that’s a positive way of thinking.

Don’t get me wrong, I think the good thing that the original post brings up is that it can be a good sign that you might not be a bad person if you’re asking yourself the question “am I a bad person?” because self-awareness is a positive quality. Brief, related aside: there’s a man named Christian Picciolini who used to be neo-Nazi– the worst thing a person can be. He’s since withdrawn from the Nazi movement and he co-founded a non-profit organization that councels members to help them disengage from hate groups. So he’s now helping to reduce the amount of Nazis in the world. In order to get where he is today, he once had to ask himself the question “am I a bad person?” and he most certainly was at the time. Christian had to make some serious changes to his life, and he had to right a lot of wrongs. Asking yourself if you’re a bad person, or wanting to be a good person doesn’t automatically prove that you are a good person; sometimes asking that question is just the first step in someone’s journey to becoming a better person.

thejoanglebook:

pla-a-nt:

disasterbisexual:

if you’re ever scared you’re not a good person, remember that bad people don’t care about being better 

This is actually very important, so I’m gonna hit that reblog button again

I’m don’t want to rain on the parade, but I don’t think this is true at all. Someone can be bad for a period of time, recognize that they’ve made horrible choices, and change for the better. A lot of “bad people,” don’t even know that they’re doing anything wrong. I think this oversimplification puts you at risk of dehumanizing flawed people, or people who’ve made some mistakes because you perceive them as bad.

If you think you might be a bad person right now– that’s okay because everything is liquid. Your life is going to take on a completely different shape ten years from now– your life might even look completely different ten months from now. We should encourage people with the prospect of changing for the better– not the idea that bad people are inherently bad and they like being that way. I don’t think that’s a positive way of thinking.

Don’t get me wrong, I think the good thing that the original post brings up is that it can be a good sign that you might not be a bad person if you’re asking yourself the question “am I a bad person?” because self-awareness is a positive quality. Brief, related aside: there’s a man named Christian Picciolini who used to be neo-Nazi– the worst thing a person can be. He’s since withdrawn from the Nazi movement and he co-founded a non-profit organization that councels members to help them disengage from hate groups. So he’s now helping to reduce the amount of Nazis in the world. In order to get where he is today, he once had to ask himself the question “am I a bad person?” and he most certainly was at the time. Christian had to make some serious changes to his life, and he had to right a lot of wrongs. Asking yourself if you’re a bad person, or wanting to be a good person doesn’t automatically prove that you are a good person; sometimes asking that question is just the first step in someone’s journey to becoming a better person.

chefpyro:

chefpyro:

Want to hear a hot take?

Despite what modern core nihilism will tell you, the accidental nature and inherent meaninglessness of life as a biological phenomenon does not mean that our efforts are pointless but instead allows us all to determine what we personally desire out of life. It means we are free to pursue what our hearts desire, and so enables each of us to find our own unique meaning.

Also love is real.

And the majority of people in the world are inherently good-natured.

chefpyro:

chefpyro:

Want to hear a hot take?

Despite what modern core nihilism will tell you, the accidental nature and inherent meaninglessness of life as a biological phenomenon does not mean that our efforts are pointless but instead allows us all to determine what we personally desire out of life. It means we are free to pursue what our hearts desire, and so enables each of us to find our own unique meaning.

Also love is real.

And the majority of people in the world are inherently good-natured.

the-real-seebs:

saathiray:

backpackfullofplums:

shadowkat678:

frustratedwaffle:

shisno:

supercrooks:

We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives.

Raise. Awareness.

For the uninformed, vaginismus is when the vagina painfully tightens and spasms when faced with pressure, usually from anything trying to insert into the vagina. It’s the reason I can’t wear tampons, and why many people can’t have vaginal sex without severe pain.

There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively – they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.

Seriously, this is so unaddressed and uncared for in medical circles. Please spread awareness, even if all it’s for is to let those who have it but don’t have a name for it finally be able to understand what’s happening to their bodies.

I’ve never even heard of this??

Me neither. 😦

Thank you for sharing bc I think I might actually have this but I thought it was just me. I can barely handle so much as a tampon. Will have to bring this up at my next doctor’s appointment.

So, there is a website dedicated to vaginismus which I suffered from for years and had no idea how to talk about it. I found this website ten or twelve years ago and bought some of their products which helped immensely. I know nothing about the medications, but the dilator set is probably the best you can do because it is a way to help widen the vagina on your own terms. I still have mine even though I haven’t needed it for years because it could come back later. 

One thing I appreciated about this website is that it emphasized that this is not your fault. Another thing I learned was that one cause could just be, you know, being part of a culture that gives women extreme anxiety about sex. This resource helped me when I was a lot younger and terrified that I was broken. 

Anyways, here’s the website. Please share it with everyone you know: x

reblogging because of the people i’ve known with this, all were survivors of some kind of childhood abuse (not necessarily intentionally-sexual abuse), and given how many abused people follow this blog, i bet there’s more who just aren’t aware of this.

the-real-seebs:

saathiray:

backpackfullofplums:

shadowkat678:

frustratedwaffle:

shisno:

supercrooks:

We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives.

Raise. Awareness.

For the uninformed, vaginismus is when the vagina painfully tightens and spasms when faced with pressure, usually from anything trying to insert into the vagina. It’s the reason I can’t wear tampons, and why many people can’t have vaginal sex without severe pain.

There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively – they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.

Seriously, this is so unaddressed and uncared for in medical circles. Please spread awareness, even if all it’s for is to let those who have it but don’t have a name for it finally be able to understand what’s happening to their bodies.

I’ve never even heard of this??

Me neither. 😦

Thank you for sharing bc I think I might actually have this but I thought it was just me. I can barely handle so much as a tampon. Will have to bring this up at my next doctor’s appointment.

So, there is a website dedicated to vaginismus which I suffered from for years and had no idea how to talk about it. I found this website ten or twelve years ago and bought some of their products which helped immensely. I know nothing about the medications, but the dilator set is probably the best you can do because it is a way to help widen the vagina on your own terms. I still have mine even though I haven’t needed it for years because it could come back later. 

One thing I appreciated about this website is that it emphasized that this is not your fault. Another thing I learned was that one cause could just be, you know, being part of a culture that gives women extreme anxiety about sex. This resource helped me when I was a lot younger and terrified that I was broken. 

Anyways, here’s the website. Please share it with everyone you know: x

reblogging because of the people i’ve known with this, all were survivors of some kind of childhood abuse (not necessarily intentionally-sexual abuse), and given how many abused people follow this blog, i bet there’s more who just aren’t aware of this.